Monthly Archives: September 2014

Living a Purposeful, Rewarding Life

Life is not really about the pursuit of happiness but rather the happiness of the pursuit – the unknown, mystical journey that we all have to undertake in order to find our true natures, our true selves.

Gentleness is a gracious gift with the power of transformation – a quiet strength, a real strength that contains the potential to change the world.

When life gets too fast and you feel over-burdened with activates to undertake in an anxious driven ‘ must do ‘ impulsion – pause! Pull back, take deep breaths and mindfully centre yourself in relaxing calm. Nothing of any real value gets achieved with an intrusive, anxious mind set. Acknowledge this reality and act upon it. Relax, settle your mind and stay present.

Be careful when you make promises because when you do it’s incumbent on you to keep them. How often do we hear the words, lightly said and often meant,
“ I promise “ only to be let down later, disappointed and feeling ragged. Kept promises show we are serious, responsible, dependable people who can be relied upon.

Avoid making too many assumptions about people. Often we can readily categorize them, put them into fixed, pre-packaged boxes thus closing down our options to view them in a completely different light. People come from a diversity of different backgrounds, with their own characteristic, unique ways of seeing the world. So respect this by staying open on judgements – you won’t be disappointed.

Make space in your day for periods of breath realization – a mindfulness practice that can bring you right into the centre of relaxing calm. Don’t be sparing here and don’t feel guilty either. Take slow, deep, rhythmic breaths and feel your body opening up more. Pay attention to what it is saying and continue on your journey into relaxation.

To find a lasting, enduring happiness, lose yourself in the service of others.
We must always try and act honourably even if it’s at our costs, for personal integrity is vital in our lives – a standard others recognize and act upon. And to diminish this status, to devalue its meaning, would be a considerable loss – something we may never, ever regain again.

Fear undermines our confidence and interferes with our perception. On one level, as an early warning signal, fear, or rather apprehension, can be of value
in alerting us to potential dangers, but after a considered, rational assessment as taken place to plan our forward journey all this anxiety should be put to one side as we enter the stream of potentiality – our new becoming.

Never accept total defeat in your life. If we penetrate under the surface enough we will see ( however small ) victories in our defeats and defeats in our victories. There are always elements of both in any outcome. Rarely are things total and complete in our lives so there is an implicit need to remain balanced in our outlook and evaluation. Whatever the outcomes are from our actions, whatever way we decide to view them one thing is for certain – there are still further lessons and instructions contained within them for us learn from – a balanced perspective that will serve us well if only we engage deeply enough.

Refine your questions first then allow the answers to emerge in their own good time.

It’s no good seeking the approval of others. We are in our own, unique space as responsible adults and it’s incumbent on us to seek our own, authentic approval – to seek out the life we are meant to live.

Love can heal wounds, mend broken hearts, put right was is wrong and compensate for what has been lost. Believe in the power of love and let it transform your life. “ Love is life. And if you miss love, you miss life. “
Leo Buscaglia

Michael Lewin


The Restorative Path To Healing

Our health and wellbeing must always be the number one priority in our lives.

With any bout of prolonged suffering a feeling of numbness and deadness can occur. This is often extremely difficult to manage as our inner senses tend to
‘ acclimatise ‘ themselves. But whatever life throws at us we must always remember that at the deepest level, we carry the very resources needed to deal with it.

Any denial of our pain and discomfort is pointless because they will come back to remind us of their presence in our lives. Acknowledge their existence in the first stage of the recovery process then we proceed to work out effective strategies for working with them.

No one enjoys suffering yet it’s in the very moments that we feel our pain and anguish, darkness and despair that we really learn something about ourselves.

The body is very forgiving and will start to heal itself, if given time and patience.

In moments of quiet and solitude it is possible to touch a special space of profound understanding which – if we listen closely enough – whispers not of separation but wholeness, not fracture but oneness, not disturbance but peace. And in this space lies our redemption, our liberation

Accept the reality that life isn’t fair. Over reacting, clutching our pain even more closely to our chests, because of built up anxiety, doesn’t serve us very well. Affirm the surfacing negativity within yourself then make a decision to let it all go.

How do we make our suffering more manageable? By replacing old reactive habits of behaviour with balance and perspective.

What is healing if not a quest to find out what we are made of and what we can achieve under difficult circumstances?

We must never get too clever or complacent about our healing progress because it might just turn around and trip us up. At the very heart of any restorative health work there is always humility and tenderness, warmth and compassion and it these very qualities that will carry us forward into a fuller healing.

Make a strong resolve to work effectively on your recovery programme – for whilst we need to consult and listen to health professionals, we must never surrender responsibility for our own healing. We are a part of the treatment team and our thoughts and feelings do carry weight.

Are we truly awake to our pain? Do we acknowledge its full presence? Are we trying to understand what it‘s saying? For without a deep, penetrating, non-judgemental engagement with it we can never really heal.

Anxiety and worry do not serve the healing process well. Working out and experimenting with different strategies does.

Constantly looking back is not a strategy for going forward. Learn the lessons of the past and then become part of the present. We are here, now, so concentrate on this allowing a new and better future to unfold.

Set backs are part of the healing path. Accept the fact that there will be a few slips along the way. No real healing can proceed progressively and constantly to recovery without some stalling, some minor wandering away from the path. When we accept this reality we are better placed to find perspective on our overall growth.
Michael Lewin

My New Life Began When I……

My new life began when I:……..

…….accepted the risks in my life as a challenge to find greater rewards.

…….saw my ‘ failures ‘ as a learning device to get me back on track.

………accepted my worth and value as a real person and moved forward into the new.

………showed love and attention to those who are close to me .

My new life began when I:……..

…….abandoned a basket full of opinions, judgements and ill-informed ideas I had no right to cling to.

…….allowed my health to take priority in my life.

……..fully embraced forgiveness – for myself and for others.

……accepted the universe as benign – there to support me and my best endeavours.

……..healed my hate with forgiveness and love.

……..spent more time laughing with children.

My new life began when I:……..

……..sought the wisdom of older, wiser elders.

…….surrendered to life and asked her take me where she must.

……..took time out of my busy schedule to engage with some quiet time.

…….realized that I wasn’t in charge of the universe.

………accepted that my problems had a corresponding solution buried within them.

…….. stopped criticizing others and started to understand how difficult their journeys could be.

Michael Lewin

Ten Steps to a New Future

Try to think deeply about possible life goals to be achieved, no matter how difficult they may initially seem. Remember that without ambition to reach out for something ‘ bigger ‘ we will inevitably restrict ourselves

Don’t look back too much. Reflect upon and evaluate the past but use it to inform the future

Mistakes are part of life. Accept this and learn from them. See all your mistakes as part of an overall corrective strategy to get you back on course

Invest your money, energy and time for the prospect of a brighter tomorrow

Do not allow others to set your agenda. Have faith and confidence in your ability to succeed

Work hard at every opportunity you can in order to accomplish your plans

Remain flexible, and take readings along the way. Always be prepared to make any necessary adjustments when the time is right

Look for supportive people who can help you along the way

Stay focussed but do not become self-obsessed

Enjoy your achievements with others, especially those who have helped you


Michael Lewin

Alan Watts

“Advice? I don’t have advice. Stop aspiring and start writing. If you’re writing, you’re a writer. Write like you’re a goddamn death row inmate and the governor is out of the country and there’s no chance for a pardon. Write like you’re clinging to the edge of a cliff, white knuckles, on your last breath, and you’ve got just one last thing to say, like you’re a bird flying over us and you can see everything, and please, for God’s sake, tell us something that will save us from ourselves. Take a deep breath and tell us your deepest, darkest secret, so we can wipe our brow and know that we’re not alone. Write like you have a message from the king. Or don’t. Who knows, maybe you’re one of the lucky ones who doesn’t have to.”

Thomas Merton

” Learn how to meditate on paper. Drawing and writing are forms of meditation. Learn how to contemplate works of art. Learn how to pray in the streets or in the country. Know how to meditate not only when you have a book in your hand but when you are waiting for a bus or riding in a train.”