FINDING NEW LIFE
Stop looking for perfection – life is perfectly imperfect.
It’s OK to be different. Don’t let others define you.
Stop offering up excuses for your own failures and instead work regularly to correct them for a bigger, brighter future. Failures are only signposts on the road to progress and eventual success. They can instruct us on what we should do next, how we should proceed. Never miss an opportunity to learn from them.
Focus more on your own behaviour rather than others.
Always do your best but remember: you are not in charge of the universe; you are not responsible for the problems of the world.
Listen and take notice of the subtle signs the universe is hanging out for your attention.
Don’t construct an identity around a notion of yourself- you are not a fixed identity. Stop attaching to things and just gaze at the passing show. Become a participant observer of life, including your own. ….stay present, mindfully attending, just being rather than doing.
Despite all the mental chatter to the contrary you are not your mind, you are larger than this.
When we are upset – when irritation, annoyance, frustration enters our lives this is the very time to take stock. Come into your centre slowly, switching your attention to the breath…. in-breath, out-breath, in-breath, out—breath, staying with its rhythm, mindfully attending to it smoothing, healing pattern. Fairly soon a relaxing calm will settle. Stay with this presence as long as you can remembering that if you have to undertake some activity you can always return to this spacious stillness.
Never feel that you don’t have the time for relaxation, for when you make this judgement – often in haste whilst busily attending to work related matters -that is probably the very time that you need it the most. Stop focusing on external matters and take deep, mindful breaths. Tune your attention to your body and its need for relaxation/healing knowing that your power comes from ab intra – from within.
Buried deeply in our intense pain lies pockets of acceptance and reconciliation – find them.
Ultimately there is only surrender, the humility to accept without protest, without resistance, without reservation the deep mysteries of our lives.