HEALING: A STEP AT A TIME JOURNEY
If we treat healing as a peripheral matter, something that doesn’t get our attention much, something that is not quite important enough, something we may even possibly ignore at times then our progress along the healing path will be minimal.
We must accept our worthiness for healing; we must counter any negativity that surfaces within us that tries to tell us anything other than we are deserving of better.
Our hearts must come to rest in our healing, our minds must come to rest in our healing, and our bodies must come to rest in our healing.
Forgiveness seems to be an integral part of healing at times – forgiveness to others and importantly forgiveness to our selves for falling over in life and not always recognizing openings and opportunities that perhaps could have given us a more solid platform in life. The deep waters of forgiveness can bathe our aching wounds, can help us reach out for reconciliation – a new harmony.
Curing is one thing, healing is another. We may not always be ‘ cured ‘ but we can always be healed.
Be gentle with yourself, tolerant and accepting of your shortcomings and mistakes. We all slip up every so often but this is no reason to start adopting self-damaging, self-defeating dialogues that speaks of giving up. Indeed, in moments like these, moments of doubt and fear we must dig even deeper into our reserve and try to turn things around knowing that a breakthrough will be imminent.
If we are not healing properly, if we are not making any signs of real progress then it’s incumbent on us to check our lifestyle thoroughly and make the choices that will get us back on track.
Our pain and suffering are part of our journey but they are not the destination.
We always have to make ourselves fully available to open up to any healing that enters our lives.
Healing is a moment by moment process of compassionate giving and receiving that leads us to a place of inner calm and peace.
The healing of our wounds must take priority for us – believe this, absorb this, act on this for a better, brighter future. Like anything in life, healing change requires consistent, dedicated practice. Always give this your best shot.
When we consistently tell ourselves the story of or pain and wounds, our adversity and suffering it can become habitual which prevent a different, more positive narrative from unfolding. We must remember what we say about ourselves, what we come to believe about ourselves can often get translated into a self-fulfilling prophesy that gets acted out whether we are aware of it or not. Given the choice isn’t better to use the ‘story line‘ that can aid our growth rather than stifle it?
If we really want to accept healing change in our lives then we must move beyond seeing it as a temporary act, something we participate in as and when we feel like it. Rather we must come to accept it at the other end of the spectrum – as a way of life.
When the shadow of pain descends on our vulnerable lives, casting its darkness all over us, this is not the time to despair but instead to act positively by seeking out a space of solitude, stillness, silence and most of all patience for recuperation and eventual renewal.
Do not over burden yourself with stress when things do not pan out the way you think they should, in the time frame you lay down. As Rumi said:” When I run after what I think I want, my days are a furnace of distress and anxiety; if I sit in my own place of patience, what I need flows to me, and without any pain…There is a great secret in this for anyone who can grasp it.”