Life can get us down. We can work hard towards certain goals only to find that after much sweat and toil things can collapse, leaving us bewildered and often angry. In these challenging times it’s all too easy to abandon our work in frustration and ‘throw in the towel,’ giving up on all our attempts to succeed the next time around. I know this feeling very well, but in my experience this might be the very spot where things can turn around, where, if we carry on with determine resolve, we can push forward to an eventual victory. Horace’s words very much hold true to me: “ Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents which, in prosperous circumstances, would have lain dormant.”
When we quiet our minds for any prolonged period, we can start to create the conditions for insights to arise. The clatter of our everyday, busy, ‘ noisy ‘ lives can fall away allowing a peaceful, relaxing calm to surface and it is here, in this calming stillness that we can start to see the world anew, in a different light that can take us forward in a new direction. Never pass up an opportunity to ‘ take time out ‘ and simply relax around your life – you might be surprised by what can happen.
Don’t allow ‘ friends ‘ to drain your energy. We can often feel let down, disappointed, angry even with their lack of appropriate responses to us. This is understandable as we do expect a certain level of treatment but alas, this is not always forthcoming. Accept this, agree to reconcile yourself to its reality and move on. Dwelling on ‘ friends ‘ behaviour, unfortunately gets us nowhere because we are powerless to change it. Let it pass and conserve your energy for more important issues, like, perhaps, finding new friends, decent and caring friends who appreciate and value your company and respond to you in the manner you wish to be treated.
Try to cultivate patience in your life and reap rich rewards. Attentive periods of sitting and waiting are never wasted whereas restless pursuit of anxiety around the issue of constant activity can be draining both physically and mentally and hence unproductive. Patience is a vital part of the spiritual life; in essence it’s the ability to rest with a situation in order to understand how it should unfold without your contrived and artificial input – learning to sit until you are called to act. “ They also server who stand and wait.” John Milton
The power of life is with us, in us, around us ready to be used, ready to transform the world and us in the process. Never forget this.
Life sometimes gets the better of us; we can feel this at times as an undeniable reality that we all have to confront in life. Nevertheless, we still live with another reality, another possibility – one that tells us we can always turn things around for the better. Falling down, making mistakes in life is par for the course but that’s no reason why we should remain hung up about them. We can all change our situation if we have a will to – it’s all in our attitude, the way we view our position. We can all draw on our hidden potential for transformation if we believe we can.
The real meaning of our lives is expressed within, and our truth seeking mission is to explore this inner core to find out who we are – our unique, authentic selves.
We often ponder at times on our actions at key points, whether we should go that extra mile to try and achieve ‘ success ‘ or abort because of fear of wasting too much time on what might be considered an ‘ unsuccessful ‘ venture? This dilemma of what to do in these situations can challenge us severely. But in truth there is a simple answer available to us: We don’t know.
We have to accept uncertainty, our unknowingness and do what we think is best. Often there are no blueprints we can look at, no roadmaps we can follow; each situation is unique so we just have to respond accordingly and do what we can with our limited view knowing that this is all that can be asked of us.
And finally remember: one way traffic is not a relationship.
JOURNEY WELL AND ENJOY THE FRUITS OF YOUR EFFORTS
We often settle for less, feeling perhaps that we are not good enough for more achievements, more success. This is nonsense of course; it’s just a self-sabotaging device that is allowed to run away with debilitating feelings that prevent us from going further. Never settle for second best, never fall back from going that extra mile and startle yourself in what you can achieve.
Never measure your life in years but in the number of lives you touch.
Cultivate balance in your life. It’s right to work hard to achieve your goals but it’s also equally right to take time out for relaxing, for renewal.
Mindfulness attends to our lives peacefully and contentedly allowing things to get done at their own pace. Its special gift is its ability to connect us to an inner harmony, a natural rhythm which flows unimpeded in relaxing calm.
Don’t beat yourself up over the mistakes you make. Mistakes are an integral part of life, there as our instructors to guide and push us in the right direction.
If we look deeply enough into the problems we confront you will see a corresponding solution. Remember the words of Krishnamurti: “ If we can really understand the problem, the answer will come out of it, because the answer is not separate from the problem. “
Keeping your sense of humour in difficult circumstances is essential if we are to keep our sanity.
Be generous in your dealings with people. This will always pay you back in often unexpected ways.
Always seek out clarity in your communications with others. Ambiguity and vagueness always impede fuller understanding. Better to articulate in clear, simple, succinct terms to get your message over so as to dismiss any possibility of misunderstanding.
Death is already waiting for us so live your life fully, completely as you can, making every moment count before it’s too late.
Someone once said: “If you have a vocation you will never work again.” Let’s all find our vocation as a matter of priority and if you have been fortunate enough already to have found yours then deepen that engagement.
We must endeavour to live a life that feels nourishing, wholesome and good on the inside irrespective of our perception of how we appear to others on the outside. This is called being authentic to the true self.
Don’t compromise too much on ‘ false ‘ friendship. Because it wastes time that could be spent in finding the depth of companionship we always wanted.
Wisdom can only arise from a still, contemplative mind and for this we need to free ourselves from the busyness of our everyday activities and our inherent habitual thinking.
Relaxation is the tool we need to re-engage with balance and perspective, in other words – our sanity.
Keep it simple. Life often gets too complicated, too stressful at times to handle. By restricting our work load and relaxing around goals and achievements we can rebalance our composure and settle down to a more manageable, peaceful existence.
Living Now Magazine
“ I’m a writer. I don’t cook and I don’t clean…..Dear child this place is a mess – my papers are everywhere. It would be exhausting to clean up! When I was seven, I said to my mother, may I close the door? And she said yes, but why do you want to close the door? And I said because I want to think. And when I was eleven, I said to my mother, may I lock the door? And she said yes, but why do you want to lock the door? And I said because I want to write.”